What is Our Anger About?

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I don’t know if you have noticed (and I’m sure you have) that there is a lot of anger  in our world.  A contentious election is heating up in the US, there are civil wars and brutal conflicts, and drivers are encountering road rage every day.

What is our anger about?
Anger is an interesting emotion because of the power it wields.  Angry people are compelling, intense, and sometimes frightening.  Anger is not right or wrong, but what we do with our anger makes all the difference in the world.
Anger is a natural response that is self-protective and tries to create a safe place for our lives, our inner world, or our values.  While Anger is normal, how we process our anger and act out on our anger can either hurt or help us.
Much of our anger has to do with protecting our sense of safety, belonging, and significance.
When we encounter people or situations that push against our sense of safety we may lash out in harsh words or actions to protect ourselves. If our sense of belonging is threatened we may get angry for feeling excluded and not valued. If our significance is threatened, then we may get angry because we feel people don’t see our contributions and respect them.

These core needs of safety, belonging, and significance are so ingrained in our being that any perceived threat (real or imagined) can trip an anger response.  The problem is that for many of us, the threats we feel are more often imagined, but if we are living with lack of awareness the threats feel real enough.

Many of us have encountered angry people in our travels. I’ve had people swear at me, flip me off, and tailgate my car because they didn’t think I was driving fast enough.  I’ve seen stranded passengers at the airport unleash a fury of harsh words at the gate agent because a flight was cancelled.  I’ve had angry looks and finger gestures because someone thought I took their parking space.

These reactions can be so intense that I wonder, “Wow! If they get this angry for this small of an issue, what are they like when a real threat happens?”

It’s important to remember that our thinking affects how we feel and how we act.  If we are thinking thoughts that are misinterpreting a situation as threatening, our feelings and actions may lead to anger or other emotions.  The problem is that our thoughts are not always accurate, but feelings can be so powerful that it feels accurate.

Here are some mistaken thoughts I’ve in others (and myself)

That person is more important than I am
They think they are better than me
I”m better than they are
They don’t value me
 They don’t respect me
 No one likes me
 I am not good enough
The reason these thoughts are often mistaken, is that our ego ( or our inner voice) is primarily a self-protective mechanism. It is not necessarily distinguishing between real or imagined threats, because without awareness it’s a usually a reactive response.

If we feel anger rising within us it’s a good time pause, take a deep breath, and ask ourselves “Why am I angry?”.  With a little reflection and time before we express our anger (or after we express it), we’ll start to see patterns of thinking that are leading us astray. We’ll start to see that the threats to our sense of safety, belonging, and significance are more imaginary than real.

If we can slow down enough while we are feeling angry we have the ability to see what core need is being threatened and then make adjustments to our response.


There is legitimate anger, though,  in response to violence, injustice, and inequity.  These threats are real and its affects are damaging both emotionally and physically. There is good reason why people are angry in the face of discrimination, abuse, and war.

Whether anger is generated by our inflated ego or through real hardship, it’s important to know how to respond.  I have to admit that I don’t know what it’s like to be targeted with inequity or discrimination. In my observations, though, a response of non-violence and forgoing an “eye for an eye” leads to better outcomes for more people over time.

It takes a lot of insight to not let your ego take control and lead you into anger. It takes more to forgo violence and retribution in face of real hardship.

There is anger than runs deep through years of hurt and mistrust. That anger is often passed from generation to generation unless there is an intervention. It’s not the goal of this post to address this level of complexity.

It is my goal that we create an awareness in our lives so that when we are angry we can stop, ask “Why am I angry?” and then choose our response that will protect the needs for safety, belonging, and significance in ourselves and those around us.


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What Health Can Buy

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Last Sunday I ran 13.1 miles, a half-marathon.  I can remember a time when I would be out of breath climbing a flight of stairs and couldn’t run a mile without stopping to walk. Losing 80 pounds has given me greater opportunities to engage in activites that I previously wasn’t able to do.  Being healthy […]

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Do You Eat What You Like or Like What You Eat?

There are foods I know that are good for me that I just don’t like, specifically fish and mushrooms.  We have heard of the health benefits of many foods that for some reason we just don’t like.  But the question being posed is “can we learn to like foods that we don’t enjoy?” There is […]

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Review of “FAT CHANCE” by Dr. Robert Lustig

  In episode #18 we review the key idea of Robert Lustig’s book FAT CHANCE in which he states his case on why the obesity epidemic and it’s host of health problems is not due to gluttony and slot (you eat too much and move to little).  Lusting goes through the science behind two key […]

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Is It OK to Be Fat?

This is a review of the Ted Talk by Golda Poretsky entitled “Why it is Ok to be Fat”.  Golda has a unique approach to the issue of obesity that on one level is compassionate and on another level is a little disheartening.  I sympathize with the frustrations Golda has experienced with the ups and […]

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You’re Not 18 Anymore. Stop Eating Like You Are.

  Ah! To be 18 again when you could eat with abandon!  Well, even at 18 I couldn’t eat with abandon without gaining weight, but I didn’t gain as much weight as I would now.  But how many times do you see photos of people who are young, thin, and strong only now to see them […]

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Transform Pessimistic Thinking: Grow Your Optimism

This is part 3 of the 3 part series on pessimism and optimism and the impacts they have our our health. Having the right mindset makes all the difference in the world when you are trying to lose weight and maintain it for life.  In this episode, we’ll look at some simple and effective strategies […]

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The Opportunity With Optimism

Interpreting life in optimistic ways is a key to achieving life goals.  Pessimistic thinking plagued me for much of my life and when I started to transform my thinking with optimism, a great deal in life improved; including my weight and health. Optimists’ lives are not perfect, but the way they approach life sets them […]

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The Problem With Pessimism

When it comes to your health goals pessimism is a problem.  Pessimism is much bigger than being negative. It has far reaching consequences in our self-esteem, our relationships, and our ability to achieve what we want in life. I’ve overcome a pessimistic way of interpreting life and become more optimistic which is the single biggest […]

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Act As If You Are Thin

You’ve heard the term: Fake it ’till you make it. This is actually a sound psychological principle when people are trying to make changes in their lives.  We don’t always have the confidence or the belief that we can accomplish the goals around our health.  I understand that. After many failures in my weight loss […]

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Is it Time to Renew Your Weight Loss Vows?

It’s already March and the health clubs are starting to thin out in numbers. I’m starting to see the yearly winnowing of club members as the enthusiasm for their weight loss goals starts to fade.  We are only a couple of months into 2014 and already we need a boost to keep our goals on track.  […]

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Get Unstuck and Get Losing

At times in life we feel stuck. Stuck in our relationships, stuck in our careers, and stuck in our health. When we are stuck we feel like we have lost the ability to choose and have control over our life.  Being stuck has more to do with how we are thinking than with the circumstance […]

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Being Mentally Tough: Interview with Shaun Goodsell

  Mental toughness gives us the tools we need to achieve our most important goals in life, whether we are working to improve our health, career, relationships, or athletics. High performance coach Shaun Goodsell  has worked with top athletes at all levels of sports,  including pro athletes. He shares his insights and strategies for building […]

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The Full-Fat Paradox: Whole Milk May Keep Us Lean

  Is fat making a comeback?  We have been shunning fat since the 1980’s when the low-fat craze got a foothold in our culture and food industries.  So when everyone started taking out the fat, they added sugar and processed grains to make it palatable.  Obesity and obesity related disease has been on the rise ever […]

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Interview with 5Percenter Rhoda Caplan of Toronto, Ontario

This interview with 5Percenter Rhoda Caplan proves that it’s never to late to change your lifestyle, lose weight, and keep it off for the long haul.  Rhoda is a delightful individual and she shares her insights and strategies into sustainable weight loss.  As you will hear, this isn’t rocket science. But it does take grit, […]

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Swallow a Balloon and Lose Weight? Yet Another Product That Promises Results.

I originally came acrross this story through The Diet Doctor at www.dietdoctor.com.  Thanks to Dr. Andreas Eenfeldt of Sweden and his team of researchers who posted this on his website.    This technology isn’t available in the US yet, but it does bring up some interesting questions about using medical devices or surgery to help with […]

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The Power of No

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There are food pushers everywhere we go. These are well meaning people who push the food on us that we are trying to avoid so we can lose weight or maintain our weight. We have to cultivate the power to say “no” so we can achieve our goals.  “No” is powerful and it is liberating […]

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Using Food to Starve Cancer? What You Eat Does Matter.

This video continues the main theme of this website and podcast. Stick with real foods, especially the fruits, vegetables, and real food spices and according to Dr. Li you may be able to beat cancer before it starts, starve cancer after it starts, and help with obesity. Yet another great Ted Talk!

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Common Sense Strategies for Weight Loss & Maintenance

With all of the different options there are for diet plans, it can be daunting to know what to do.  My recommendation, if you haven’t done so, is to start with my podcast “What the Best Diets Have in Common“.  If you adopt the eating plans of a diet that focuses on whole, minimally processed […]

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What the Best Diets Have in Common

It can be frustrating when we hear conflicting advice about how to eat. While there are competing ideas out there, I have found some good commonalities among the best strategies I’ve come across. I encourage you to adopt a strategy and lifestyle change that has these three things incorporated: They are sustainable. If you adopt […]

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Be Good To Your Microbes

One of the concepts I’ve come across over the last couple of years is the importance of microbial health as a part of overall health.  We often think of microbes as potentially harmful entities to our bodies, but the truth is that having a well functioning group of microbes in and around us is essential. […]

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Interview with 5Percenter Jessica of Girdwood, Alaska

Jessica shares her story of weight loss and maintenance with honesty and personal insight.  We all have our own process and we can learn from each other, but what’s important is that you find what works for you. Jessica’s journey is both unique and universal, take note of how you relate and are different and […]

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Peter Attia: Is the obesity crisis hiding a bigger problem?

This a thoughful and comassionate alternative theory on what’s at the heart of obesity. Researcher Dr. Peter Attia presents a hypothesis that will help you unstand the relationship between insulin resistance, metabolic disorder, and obesity.  If you like to know more about Dr. Attia and his work, you can find him at his blog, The […]

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The Simplest Way to Drop 20 Pounds

Over the last month I’ve run into two people I haven’t seen for awhile. They visibly had lost weight and were proud to confirm that they had each lost about 20 pounds.  Now when people lose weight I have a hard time not asking about how they did it.  There are so many ways to […]

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Sandra Aarnodt. Why Dieting Doesn’t Usually Work

This is a great video that discusses how the brain works and why dieting is not a good strategy. My take away is that lifestyle changes make the greatest impact on our health and that being mindful of our hunger and satiety is one of the best skills we can learn to lose and maintain […]

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You Are Only One Meal Away

We often bargain for a future date to begin our new lifestyle. The key to lifestyle change, weight loss, and maintaining your weight for a lifetime is to start with your next meal. Don’t wait for the future. You are only one meal away from starting a new life.

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Ditch the Diets

If diets are so successful, why are we constantly going on diets? Does it ever end?  In this episode we’ll explore why most diets fail and how to think like a 5Percenter to achieve your weight loss goals for the rest of your life.

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Laying the Foundation for Permanent Weight Loss

This is the first podcast of the 5Percenters where I’ll be laying the foundation for why I’m creating a new podcast, how this podcast will be differentiated from others, and for the format of the show.

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5 Myths of Obesity. Are there only 5?


In a recent Star Tribune editorial Deborah Cohen, a senior natural scientist at the Rand Corporation, came up with 5 myths of obesity that she has found in her research.  I think she has a good start to the myths, but I added a few more. Myth #1. If you are obese you can blame […]

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New Year, New Diet?

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We are wrapping up another year and looking forward to a new beginning. For some of us this has been a year of success in our health, but for many of us it’s been another year of dieting frustration. We started out strong in January and gained momentum in February and March, but as the […]

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