Does Saying “I’m Sorry” Mean More Than “I Love You”?

 

ttronslien-0749

How often do we say or do things to people we love that we regret?

If life were perfect the answer would be “never”. But the reality is that we are all flawed and will cross the line into hurtful words and actions.

Healthy relationships are not conflict free.  Conflict is a part of life, but what sets healthy relationships apart from unhealthy, is the ability to repair after conflict.

Psychologist and researcher Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues has studied the interactions and conversations of thousands of couples.  He has found that a key to healthy relationships is the ability to:

1. Repair through words and actions that say “I’m sorry”.

2.  Work to build  trust through exploring the life of the person you love with questions and listening.

Listen to podcast above and hear a short excerpt of a speech given by John Gottman on this topic. Plus I summarize my thoughts on why saying “I’m sorry” is difficult for us and addition steps for building our relationships so our repairs are helpful.

 

If you’d like to read more on this topic I highly recommend John Gottman’s book:  The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

His strategies apply to our relationships with our spouses, partners, children and friends.

Drive By Wisdom: Should Humans Be On The Endangered Species List?

 

We need to consider our future as a species.  Human’s are brilliant, special, and inventive.  But we are also destructive, abusive, and violent.  In this short video I’ll explore my thoughts on our future and ways we can make a difference for our species, other species we share this world with, and our environment.

Drive By Wisdom: Ask For What You Need

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s hard for us to get our needs met if we are not willing or brave enough to ask for what we need. In this episode of Drive By Wisdom, we’ll explore how asking for help can improve your life.  Click on the video below:

Slow Down to the Speed of Life. Interview with Psychologist and Author Joe Bailey

4208101

Feeling like life is moving too fast and you can’t keep up? Anxious and frustrated?

Then, Slow Down to the Speed of Life.

Slow Down to the Speed of Life is a phenomenal interview with psychologist and author Joe Bailey where we discover how to change our thinking in order to better handle the stress of life. Often we are looking for our circumstances to change in order for our lives to improve. They key to resilience to life adversity and overall mental health, is to change our thought process in order to change how we feel and respond.

Slow Down to the Speed of Life is one of the best books I’ve read and I plan to read it every year to remind myself how to slow down, live in the moment, and enjoy life to the fullest extent possible.

For more information about Joe Bailey, his books, and videos go to:  www.joebaileyandassociates.com

Building Mental Toughness: Interview with Shaun Goodsell Part 2

shaun_goodsell-1

Mental toughness gives us the tools we need to achieve our most important goals in life, whether we are working to improve our health, career, relationships, or athletics. High performance coach Shaun Goodsell  has worked with top athletes at all levels of sports,  including pro athletes. He shares his insights and strategies for building mental toughness so we can achieve the most out of life.  If you are mentally tough you will greatly increase your odds of losing weight and keeping it off for life. Apply what Shaun recommends and watch your mental toughness grow!

This is part  2 of a two part interview. Click here for part one of the interview.

To find out more about Shaun Goodsell and his extraordinary work, check out his website at www.shaungoodsell.com

 

 

Building Mental Toughness: Interview with Shaun Goodsell Part 1

shaun_goodsell-1

Mental toughness gives us the tools we need to achieve our most important goals in life, whether we are working to improve our health, career, relationships, or athletics. High performance coach Shaun Goodsell  has worked with top athletes at all levels of sports,  including pro athletes. He shares his insights and strategies for building mental toughness so we can achieve the most out of life.  If you are mentally tough you will greatly increase your odds of achieving your goals in your health, relationships, and career. Apply what Shaun recommends and watch your mental toughness grow!

Too few people have heard this interview and I encourage you to take the time for this incredible information.

This is part 1 of a two part conversation. Check back next week to hear Shaun and I wrap up our talk about being mentally tough.

To find out more about Shaun Goodsell and his extraordinary work, check out his website at www.shaungoodsell.com