Slow Down to the Speed of Life. Interview with Psychologist and Author Joe Bailey

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Feeling like life is moving too fast and you can’t keep up? Anxious and frustrated?

Then, Slow Down to the Speed of Life.

Slow Down to the Speed of Life is a phenomenal interview with psychologist and author Joe Bailey where we discover how to change our thinking in order to better handle the stress of life. Often we are looking for our circumstances to change in order for our lives to improve. They key to resilience to life adversity and overall mental health, is to change our thought process in order to change how we feel and respond.

Slow Down to the Speed of Life is one of the best books I’ve read and I plan to read it every year to remind myself how to slow down, live in the moment, and enjoy life to the fullest extent possible.

For more information about Joe Bailey, his books, and videos go to:  www.joebaileyandassociates.com

Building Mental Toughness: Interview with Shaun Goodsell Part 2

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Mental toughness gives us the tools we need to achieve our most important goals in life, whether we are working to improve our health, career, relationships, or athletics. High performance coach Shaun Goodsell  has worked with top athletes at all levels of sports,  including pro athletes. He shares his insights and strategies for building mental toughness so we can achieve the most out of life.  If you are mentally tough you will greatly increase your odds of losing weight and keeping it off for life. Apply what Shaun recommends and watch your mental toughness grow!

This is part  2 of a two part interview. Click here for part one of the interview.

To find out more about Shaun Goodsell and his extraordinary work, check out his website at www.shaungoodsell.com

 

 

Building Mental Toughness: Interview with Shaun Goodsell Part 1

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Mental toughness gives us the tools we need to achieve our most important goals in life, whether we are working to improve our health, career, relationships, or athletics. High performance coach Shaun Goodsell  has worked with top athletes at all levels of sports,  including pro athletes. He shares his insights and strategies for building mental toughness so we can achieve the most out of life.  If you are mentally tough you will greatly increase your odds of achieving your goals in your health, relationships, and career. Apply what Shaun recommends and watch your mental toughness grow!

Too few people have heard this interview and I encourage you to take the time for this incredible information.

This is part 1 of a two part conversation. Check back next week to hear Shaun and I wrap up our talk about being mentally tough.

To find out more about Shaun Goodsell and his extraordinary work, check out his website at www.shaungoodsell.com

I Am Not Always What My Thoughts Say I Am

 

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Over the past couple of years I’ve trying to be more mindful of my thoughts and feelings. It’s easy to blow past our inner world through the busyness of the day. We have hundreds of thoughts that flow beneath the surface of our consciousness and occasionally they bubble to the surface.

At times I find myself feeling discontented and I wonder why. At other times I feel like I’m doing something wrong or something is wrong with me.  Difficult feelings ride higher in our consciousness and display themselves in:

  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Hurt
  • Self-loathing
  • Depression
  • Frustration

If we live with a lack of awareness, our feelings can surface and can overwhelm our experience. They can cloud our day with a sense of foreboding. They can hinder our relationships and disengage us from our work.

With awareness, we can trace our feelings to our thoughts, for it’s our thoughts that proceed and create our feelings.  A key learning in Adlerian Psychology is that how you think affects how you feel.  If you are feeling depressed, angry, or sad  it’s  because your thoughts  are depressing, angry and sad.

When I further analyze many of my feelings I realize that the associated thoughts are not even true! How many times have we had the thought that other people are judging us or dislike us?  How many times have we thought that we are incapable or inadequate? The reality is most people are not judging us because they’re concerned with themselves. They’re not thinking about us! We are also ignoring the many ways in life we are capable.

If we analyze our thoughts we often will realize that they aren’t true, but because of our feelings they feel true.  That’s what Adlerian Psychology calls a “mistaken belief”; something that feels and seems true, but isn’t.

This sounds strange, but you know its true: just because you think it doesn’t mean its real. Our thoughts are often misleading.

Here’s an example.  I used to have the mistaken belief that I wasn’t capable. For years I was under performing in life, because I had thoughts that doubted my talents and abilities.  When I started gathering evidence of how I was capable and talented, the mistaken belief dissipated.

When we pay attention to our thinking we’ll realize we have so many thoughts that are self-defeating, self-critical, or worse, self-loathing.  Remember, without mindfulness these thoughts will run under the surface of our consciousness and lead to icky feelings.

A key to thriving in life is to disengage ourselves from our thoughts. You can acknowledge a negative thought without dwelling on it. You can let it go and move on.

To be honest, when I first encountered this idea, I thought it was crazy.  How do you let go of a thought? It’s in my head, isn’t it?

First, we acknowledge the thought and recognize it’s a thought. “Oh, there’s that thought again saying I’m not capable.”

Second, our awareness of the thought allows us to distance ourselves from it.  We can say to ourselves, “that is just a thought.”

Third, we can then let the thought go and focus on the present moment.  If find that if I focus on deep breathing for a minute, my mind shifts away from the negative thought.

Russ Harris MD, in his book The Happiness Trap, encourages us to evaluate our thoughts in terms of helpfulness and unhelpfulness.  When you have awareness of a thought ask yourself “is this helpful?” If it is you can dwell on it, if it’s not, you let it go.

But what if the thought is true?  When I was obese I often had the thought “I’m fat and out of shape”.  That was true, but was it helpful? No!  Russ Harris encourages us to think, “Oh, there’s that thought I have about being fat.” Acknowledge it and let it go, because it’s not helpful.

Here are some helpful resources I’ve found for living a more mindful and engaging life:

The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris, MD

A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle

Slow Down to the Speed of Life by Richard Carlson and Joseph Bailey

Don’t forget to listen to a more comprehensive explanation of this topic by clicking on the audio above. You can also listen to this via my podcast, 5Percenters, on iTunes.

 

 

 

 

AC: The Power of Appetite Correction: Interview with Dr. Bert Herring

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Do you ever feel like your appetite is out of control?

I know that for myself and many others who have struggled to lose weight that feeling out of control is a common issue.  At times it seems like our appetite has a mind of it’s own and no matter what we do to gain control, we are failing.

In this interview, Dr. Bert Herring outlines his plan for bringing our appetites back into alignment with nature: the way our appetites are meant to work.

Dr. Herring bases his strategy on his intermittent fasting protocol called Fast 5.  If you are not familiar with intermittent fasting or are opposed to it, I encourage you to keep an open mind.

You never know when you come across a good idea that can transform your health.

 

You can find more information about Dr. Herring at www.bertherring.com.

You can hear my first interview with Dr. Herring by clicking here: The Fast 5 Diet

Pay Attention To What Grabs Your Attention

 

153We encounter so much information in a day. Thousands of messages, news items, and advertisements flow through our day and if we had to pay attention to all of them our brains would overload.

The good news is that our minds filter out much of this and we naturally gravitate towards information that interests us, aligns with our values and beliefs, or is potential solutions to a problem we are working on.

When we are busy, stressed, or emotionally taxed we sometimes close ourselves to good ideas and information. When you have a problem in your health, your relationships, or your career my coaching is to pay attention to what grabs your attention.

Bring awareness to what information pulls at you, interests you, or challenges your life.  Embedded in this information could be ideas to improve your career or a relationship.

In this podcast, we’ll delve what it means to  paying attention to what grabs your attention and how to apply that information to creating effective solutions for life.

 

 

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Have a great day,

Dennis